About

Back in the early 2000s, I was a young and ambitious real estate developer living in Milwaukee. The country was in the midst of a recession and I found myself stuck and struggling to figure out what to do with a landmark building I had recently purchased.

It has been burned by a fire, was sitting empty, and our latest redevelopment plan had just failed.

One day, while walking through the building trying to think of a new plan, I noticed one of the artists who’d had a studio in the building tagged the wall “adios” while moving out.

I stopped dead in my tracks looking at the tag on the wall and experienced something new—a feeling of release and freedom. The artist who called the building home and said goodbye inspired me to do the same. It was time for me to let the building go. I felt at peace for the first time in months, maybe years. 

I realized I’d been holding on to the building because I didn’t want to fail. In letting go, not only did my fear of failure fade away, but I realized I’d been clinging onto far more than that.

We all hold on to past mistakes, unhealthy relationships, unfulfilling jobs, guilt, resentment, grudges, fear, and worries about things we can’t control. This takes up a lot of space in our heads and affects our health and wellbeing. Letting go allows us to be present and to continue to grow. It creates room in our lives for new opportunities.

That was the spark I needed and it marked the beginning of my journey of going inward. Since that day, I have enjoyed sharing adios and the power of letting go with others.

As I continue to practice letting go, I now realize it’s an essential part of life. It’s how we become the best versions of ourselves.

Rob Ruvin
Founder of adios (with Elvar, the artist)